Pushing Away a Woman

A friend of mine posted this as her status on Facebook recently: "You can only push a woman away for so long until she finally walks out of your life. So be careful, make sure its what you want. Because once she turns her back on you, to her back is where you'll stay."

Isn't that the truth? How many of us are like that? I know I certainly am. It made me think about how much women WILL do to try to make things work for people who are important to us. The effort we will make to try to preserve a friendship. Especially when we can see beyond the current issue and see the layers underneath, giving us some understanding and insight into that person.

At some time in a difficult relationship though, there is a tipping point. When I think back and remember what made me "tip over" regarding the people I have walked away from, the people themselves and the situations have little in common with each other. I guess this means that each individual relationship had it's own point where I, as a woman, had to make a conscious decision to let it go and move on with my life.

And I do notice that as I've aged, I'm much more choosy about who I let inside in the first place. This makes me tend to fight that much harder to keep it. If I made a conscious decision to let them in to the sanctity of what is me... and I obviously felt they were worthy of that, and it was beneficial to both of us, then it is a rare, precious thing. Something worth holding on to.

But, people change. Circumstances change. Sometimes we drift apart, which is part of the cycle of life. Sometimes we get pushed out, or push someone else out.... and that's where it gets painful. And then once we are pushed enough, we're through. Out. Done. With no going back.

I'm so thankful for my husband and the people in my life who love me as I am, and are so good to me. I'm so fortunate to have this. To feel secure in my small circle of friends, and the people who bring me warmth, love, and laughter. And for me to multiply and return that back to those who are close by and appreciate it.

And for those that don't and who have pushed me out... I wish I could say the loss is all yours. But in reality, the majority of the time, we both lost.

Life is short.